Sure, when it comes to the things we do in life, you cannot please everyone. There will always be someone who is upset with you or who does not like the things you’re doing.
While people will disagree with you and want to go out of their way to make you feel bad or bring you down, you do not have to justify yourself to them. You are in charge of your own life and at the end of the day, you are the one who has to live with the things you’ve done/do. If you are not living the life you want to live, you need to make the changes that will allow you to find yourself properly.
Sure, people will judge you for remaining true to who you are and refusing to let others define you but that in itself is a huge showing of their character, not yours. You don’t have to convince the people around you that you’re living your life your way, as long as you know that is all that matters. Below I am going to go over some of the things that while others might think need explained, don’t need to be explained at all. Period.
1. Never explain why you choose to be around the people you choose to be around.
You are free to choose the friends that you want in your life. There is no sense in letting anyone pick and choose who you get to allow in your life unless that someone is YOU. You don’t have to explain why you like the people you like to anyone and those who question or judge in regards don’t deserve to hold any kind of place in your life.
2. Never explain why you treat yourself, jealousy brings out the worst in others.
Jealous people are everywhere and if they see you doing good and still being able to treat yourself they will come out of the woodworks and try to bring you down. You do not have to explain to anyone why you’re doing the things you’re doing, you are living your life not anyone else’s. Sure, treating yourself can become a bit much from time to time but if you’re doing it properly, those who are jealous can suck it.
3. Never explain why you’re not sorry and never just say sorry to get someone to leave you alone.
You don’t have to explain why you’re not sorry when you’re not sorry. Sure, there are exceptions to this when it comes to lovers and so forth but overall you have to break things down for people who aren’t as invested in your life. You don’t owe anyone an explanation, you aren’t sorry and that it that.
You said yes or no because that is what you truly wanted in the end. There is no sense in breaking things down for those who refuse to accept your answer as it is. These people will never be happy regardless of what you say at this point.
5. Never explain your priorities.
Your priorities are your priorities for your own reasons and those reasons don’t have to be shared with anyone else. You live your life the way you want to live it and so does everyone else. If someone doesn’t like how you’re doing things they can get over it.`
6. Never explain why you’re cutting someone off to someone who has nothing to do with the situation.
You do not have to explain why you’re cutting someone off. If you believe someone doesn’t belong in your life then you should do what is best for you. No one ever has any entitlement to a ‘why’ unless they are the person you’re cutting off and the reason is not as toxic as it could be.
7. Never explain the things that matter to you to those who just don’t understand.
You are the person who is in control of your own life as noted above. You have your own values and forms of happiness. If something matters to you, that something might not matter to others and there is nothing wrong with that.
8. Never explain why you believe in what you believe in.
You have your own beliefs and so does everyone else. You do not have to explain these beliefs to anyone else. Don’t give up your beliefs for other people, ever.
9. Never explain your appearance to anyone be it conventional or not.
You don’t have to fit in with society. You are free to make yourself into whoever you want and you don’t have to answer to anyone in regards. Your appearance doesn’t have to fit into any kind of mold, remember that.
10. Never explain why something is important to you to someone who refuses to listen.
The things that are important to you are important to you for your own reasons. If you were to explain them to others they wouldn’t understand anyway. Just know your truth and live it.
11. Never explain your actions to those who do not hold power within your life.
You do the things you do because they align properly with your life point blank. You don’t have to break things down for other people and you shouldn’t care what they have to say anyway. Once again, this is your life to live.
12. Never explain your decisions or try to break things down for others.
You should be the only person making decisions in your life. If you are explaining your decisions you are allowing others to hold influence over the things you do and that isn’t a good idea. Be true to nothing but yourself and live the life you have always wanted.
13. Never explain why you are exploring yourself properly.
You are free to explore yourself and work to find yourself in all the ways you need to. While others will call you weird or try to make you explain, you don’t have to. You are not a toy and you should never let anyone play with you.
14. Never explain why you’ve moved on.
We all move on from things in our lives. When we do this it might catch some people around us off guard but that doesn’t mean we have to go into detail and allow them to see the sides of things we don’t want to share. We are free to keep whatever we would like to, to ourselves.
You are unique and quite spectacular. Because of your one of a kind attitude and the way you hold yourself people will always want to know your ‘secret’ that being said, there is no secret. Explaining what made you who you are is never easy and shouldn’t be something you have to attempt.
16. Never explain your explanation.
If you explain something to someone out of the kindness of your heart, and they keep pressing for more and wanting to dive for details, cut them off. You don’t have to keep feeding into this kind of thing. Don’t forget how easy it is to just walk away.