When it comes to dating a lot of the time we set ourselves up to get hurt. We fall too hard too quickly for people who only want to see us fail and in the end, everything comes crashing down.
When it comes to determining whether someone is in your life for the right reasons or just to gain all they can for however long they can, you have to really look at the things that they say as well as what they do. You can’t go around pretending that someone who treats you like shite and doesn’t care about your wellbeing is head over heels in love with you. Things just don’t work that way.
Below I am going to go over some of the signs that indicate someone in your life isn’t as in love with you as you might want them to be. While this doesn’t mean they aren’t feeling something for you at all, it does narrow things down a bit. Love isn’t a one-way street and it shouldn’t ever be made out to be.
1. They never stay true to their word.
When someone loves you they will do all they say they will and do their best to never let you down but if they don’t they won’t care either way. They will say something time and time again only to never follow through. You can’t count on them for anything.
2. They never pay attention to the things you say.
When you speak, the words just seem to go in one ear and out the other when it comes to this person. They don’t make any kind of effort to understand you or the life you live. It’s like you’re nowhere near the same page and closed off from getting there.
3. They make you jealous on purpose.
They like to make you jealous for seemingly no reason. They go out of their way to flirt with other people and keep you on edge. This is not something anyone who loves you would ever even consider.
4. They lie to you and refuse to be honest.
They never seem to tell you the truth and you are constantly catching them in lies. The deeper you dig the more you uncover and nothing ever seems to add up. This is because they do not believe you deserve the truth and want power over you.
We all have our boundaries and those boundaries are in place for a reason. When you’re dating someone who loves you those boundaries will never be crossed. Those who truly care know how important it is to respect you and your limits.
6. They are not interested in the things that make you happy.
They don’t care about your friends, family, or even your hobbies. It’s like no matter how hard you try to get them to come closer they just pull away. This is a clear sign love is not something they’re feeling.
When you need them the most they disappear. You can’t expect them to answer the phone in the middle of the night or to be there when you need a shoulder to cry on. It just doesn’t work like that with them for some reason.